Gay Dad Viciously Mocks Baby Trying to Breastfeed

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A viral clip of a dad mocking his surrogate-born newborn for “trying to breastfeed” jolted the internet because it hit the live wire of who owes what to a child the moment life begins.

Story Snapshot

Child-centered critics say surrogacy cuts kids off from a mother at conception.
Research on child outcomes in same-sex surrogacy families is mixed but often reassuring.
Courts and lawmakers balance child identity, adult autonomy, and commercialization.
The video’s shock value risks crowding out sober policy questions about children’s rights.

What the video ignited and why it matters

The short video drew anger because it mixed two fragile moments: a baby’s first instinct to latch and an adult’s need to perform for clicks. Viewers saw a helpless child, a missing mother, and a joke at nature’s expense. Child-rights advocates argue this is the core harm of surrogacy in same-sex arrangements. They say adults order family forms that sever a child from a mother or father at conception, then call it love. That clash between biology and intent is the policy fault line.

Them Before Us, led by Katy Faust, pushes a tight claim: children have a right to both biological parents, and laws should not pre-plan that loss. Their campaign opposes commercial surrogacy bills they say write motherlessness or fatherlessness into law. The video, to them, is not an outlier but a window into a mindset that centers adults. That moral frame is crisp and resonates with many conservatives who see nature and kinship as guardrails, not clay to be reshaped at will.

What the research actually shows about kids

Empirical studies often report that children in surrogacy and same-sex father families are doing well on standard measures. A recent review found children born through surrogacy showed normal psychological adjustment at age seven and noted same-sex male surrogacy families functioning well. A medical center report likewise summarized no adverse psychological outcomes from surrogacy overall. A 2024 European study even found children of gay fathers had fewer behavior problems than children of heterosexual parents. These findings challenge sweeping claims of inevitable harm.

Yet the record is not perfect or uniform. A 2024 developmental review observed slightly greater adjustment difficulties for children born via surrogacy compared with those conceived using donor gametes alone, though still within normal ranges. Sample sizes are modest, methods vary, and most studies do not isolate same-sex surrogacy over long arcs into late adolescence. Policy should avoid absolutist claims. Where data reassure, say so. Where gaps remain, demand careful, long-term study. That is how child welfare, not culture war, leads the way.

Law, contracts, and the child’s identity

Modern surrogacy law often treats intent as parenthood. California codified that approach years ago, signaling that the adults who planned the birth count as the legal parents, even without genetic or birth ties. European Court of Human Rights case law pressures states to recognize cross-border surrogacy parentage to protect children from legal limbo. These systems prize immediate stability for the child, which is sound, but they can sideline deeper questions about a child’s right to know origins and to maintain ties with the woman who carried them.

While I’m not anti-surrogacy per se, creating this video (assuming it’s genuine) was foolhardy.

It gives ammo to those who are against surrogacy, but it also encourages anti-gay comments, especially as criticism is disproportionately directed towards same-sex surrogate parents.

— Jackson Jundevahn (@jundevahn) October 5, 2026

Gestational surrogacy, by design, places a woman in a pregnancy with no genetic tie to the child, then requires surrender at birth. The law review literature states that gestational carriers are not biologically related to the child they carry, which clarifies the intent-versus-biology split at the heart of these cases. That split is what the video pressed on. When a newborn roots and finds a flat chest, the question is not comedy. It is whether our law and markets trained everyone present to see a mother-shaped absence as normal, even desirable.

What a child-first standard would do next

Legislatures should require three things. First, full identity access for the child at age-appropriate stages, including the surrogate’s medical history. Second, strict limits on commercial incentives that pressure poor women to rent their bodies for the affluent; coercion has no place in family formation. Third, outcome tracking across adolescence for all surrogacy-created families, with reports to the public. These steps respect the promising data while staying honest about unknowns. Children are not bespoke products. They are citizens with claims on us all.